Hard to believe that Father’s Day weekend is almost upon us! Let me start by wishing my father, John, a happy Father’s Day! My dad is a retired Chicago police officer who still lives in the city. I credit him for my work ethic and love of movies. Even though there were probably (a lot) of R rated movies that kids shouldn’t have seen back in the day (like “Terminator 2” when I was eight and my brother was five).
I extend the same greeting to all fathers far and wide. I hope you have a great weekend spent with your loved ones.
I also know that for many of you reading this your father may have passed away. My thoughts are with you, and it is my hope that you’re able to recall fond memories with your father and perhaps some photos or videos that you can reflect on.
I’ve been a father since March of 2012, and if I’m being totally honest with you, I was not ready. I thought I was prepared, but walking out of UnityPoint Health (here in Muscatine) carrying our firstborn son Henry in his car seat is when it all started to sink in. We were living in Rock Island at the time, and the moment we walked back into the house we rented I panicked. The care was so good by the nursing staff at UnityPoint (shout-out to LuAnn and everyone that was there at the time) that upon arriving home I felt completely terrified. My wife can attest to this. I basically got in the door, set stuff down, and then made some excuse to run out to Walgreens, but what I really needed was time to breathe and think about how much my life had changed.
I’ve learned in my nine years of being a father that it’s okay to not know everything. Patience is something that I am still working on, and it can be tough with our kids being nine, six, and two years of age. They’re constantly on the move and summoning the energy while working full-time is so hard but so incredibly rewarding at the same time.
So while Father’s Day appears on the calendar as this Sunday, June 20th, my goal is to try and be a father worthy of celebrating the other 364 days per year. My wife has learned to stop asking me what I want for Father’s Day because I never have an answer. The only thing that I would really want is a DeLorean, but I certainly don’t need one, nor do I think I would even fit inside of it! Perhaps a Hot Wheels DeLorean would be more appropriate.
All jokes aside, what I really want this Father’s Day weekend is to spend time with my family and to maybe go out for breakfast on Sunday at my pal Boni’s Waffle & Pancake House. What I will provide my family in return is more of my presence as I continue to work on being less distracted while at home and more in the moment. So, I hope you all have a wonderful weekend, and once again, happy Father’s Day!